Taking BDSM Games Outside the Bedroom

As a bondage beginner, your exploration of BDSM roles and rough sex may still be confined to the bedroom. But what if you crave more from your BDSM games and play? Perhaps you have a burning desire to experiment in a new location that offers different opportunities. Or a curiosity to adopt a D/s dynamic as a more permanent part of your relationship?

While taking BDSM outside the bedroom isn’t for everyone if you and your consenting partner decide “Actually, we like this a lot”, here’s how you might approach breaking the bedroom binds.  

Try BDSM Somewhere New

If you’ve exhausted BDSM games between your four walls, and further exploration means access to BDSM tools and furniture you can’t keep at home, then the solution could be to head to an erotic hotel, BDSM club, or a private dungeon.

For those wanting an alternative to the familiar setting of your own bedroom, but not wanting to play in public, try a hotel with a sexy, kinky twist. Pop ‘erotic hotel UK’ into your search engine and you’ll discover hotel rooms with well-positioned mirrors, oversized bathtubs, sex swings, and furniture that lends itself perfectly to bondage play and spanking.

Taking your adult sex games to a more public forum could also allow you to explore your exhibitionist side. Attending a BDSM club could be a great way to discover new ideas, speak to like-minded people and give you a larger space to play in.

This is great if your curiosity lies more in trying larger BDSM sex furniture, like St Andrew’s Crosses, pet cages, or being suspended by a rope. Similarly, you could book a dungeon to explore this in a more private setting.

It’s possible to rent dungeons for a few hours at a time, or if it’s a complete property with a dungeon room, you can book it for a whole day and stay overnight for your adult games and erotic roleplay escapades.  

Dungeon hire usually involves getting in touch with the professional Dominant who owns the dungeon and equipment. They’ll be able to explain any rules about what you can and can’t use, or for an extra cost may be happy to show you how to use the equipment so you can make the most of it.

Exploring D/s Dynamics as a Relationship

Dominant and submissive roles don’t have to be restricted to session play. Couples who choose a 24/7 D/s relationship include BDSM games in their everyday life. As you can imagine, this isn’t always easy.

“The main obstacle was turning the fantasy into something which was real and would fit with two full-time jobs, a family with kids, and elderly parents” explains Missy, who’s in a 24/7 D/s relationship with her husband.

“It was about how we wove the dynamic through the various aspects of the marriage. While I might enjoy it, kneeling naked at the door waiting for him to come home or exploring our fantasies in a club dungeon wasn’t really an option for us.

One trap is thinking that there is a ‘right’ way to do this. There’s no one true way. I’d advise doing your research and taking the bits and pieces that you think will work for your relationship. This has to fit with your personalities and your lifestyle or it will not be sustainable” she explains.

Establishing a full-time D/s relationship is a complex topic and, as Missy said, ironing out the kinks may take some time. “Essentially the relationship is built on a strong foundation of respect, honesty, communication and trust which allows you to explore those hidden parts of yourselves together in a way which becomes safe both in and beyond the bedroom.”

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If you’re not quite ready to venture out and explore you may prefer to discover how to set the scene for the best BDSM play in your own home.

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