Intimacy in Isolation - Maintaining Your Sex Life in Quarantine

Ladies, They-dies and Gentlemen, we live in interesting times. Wishing 2020 had turned out to be the kind of year you summarize as ‘kind of just there’, instead we’re all adjusting to the realities of lockdown together – from anxiety, to boredom, to the complete inability to purchase flour for love nor money.

In addition to everything else, some of you might also be mourning the temporary halt to your sex life as you self-isolate away from partners. Others will be in quarantine together, trying to work around each others possibly conflicting routines and needs during the working day – to say nothing of children. Still others will be battening down the hatches alone, their tranquil sanctuary suddenly a prison – or full of nosy flatmates.

Whatever your particular struggle, maintaining an active sex life in quarantine is not an impossible endeavor.

Cohabiting couples might seem lucky right now, sure, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t still issues that will come up. Take the time to adjust to life’s new parameters; figure out how working from home is going to work if either of you have to, and appreciate the extra time you’re getting together – but equally, don’t be afraid to ask for alone time, if that’s something you need. No matter how much you love each other, you’re probably both usually working all day – you don’t tend to be together 24/7. There’s nothing wrong with taking a little time to yourself to recharge your batteries.

Set aside time to do something special and treat each other each week, like a mini date night from the comfort of your own home. Cook something fancy for your partner, open a nice bottle of wine and have a sit down dinner like you might have at a restaurant during a normal week. Life shouldn’t have to stop!

Set aside some time one evening for a games night with a sexy twist. Something like Our Sex Game, a voyage into erotic exploration that will leave you anything but bored. 

This is the perfect opportunity for a sensual and intimate massage.

Try out a massage candle – like a JimmyJane Afterglow in a lucious scent like vanilla sandalwood or berry blossom. Light it and let the tantalising scent permeate the room, then blow it out and feel the luxurious sensation of warm massage oil against your skin.

Whether it’s a new beau you’re missing or a long-term partner you just haven’t taken the moving in step with yet, a lot of you will have been forced to quarantine without your partner, but your sex life (and your romantic life) doesn’t have to come to a complete stop.

Even if you’re in separate houses, you should still set aside dedicated time to spend with each other. You could even have virtual dates! Watching a movie together via Netflix Party or even eating a meal together while on Skype can take the place of an evening out at a bar. Try to spend quality time like this together as regularly as you might have done a couple of months ago.

It might be time to brush up on your wordplay while we’re all in lockdown. While a can’t-wait-to-see-you-winky-face serves when you’re meeting up every other day, you might need to expand the repertoire to keep the magic alive over the weeks ahead. This collection of sexy phrases, from Jamie J Le Claire on Instagram, might help you with talking dirty.

It’s 2020 – you don’t even have to be in the same room to be intimate anymore. Try shopping a range like We-Vibe, who take remote control toys one step further with their special We-Connect toy control app, facilitating some long-distance loving of the kind we’re all looking for right now.

The We-Connect App lets you play from a distance, pairing your toy to your partner’s app with a unique code and giving them control over the vibration, including fully customize-able patterns you can save for use again and again.

Living alone can be wonderful and freeing, but only when you’re choosing it. If you’re going crazy between the four walls that used to be your sanctuary, you need to be kind to yourself in this difficult time.

The best way to not go insane is to keep to a normal routine – get up at a certain time every day and get dressed, even if it’s just for a meeting with Netflix and the sofa. Make sure you stay in contact with friends and family!

Times like these, you need to indulge in a little bit of self-love – and no, I’m not just saying that because this is a sex toy website. I myself have already made a good five online orders from various retailers while we’ve been in quarantine and I have to say, having new things never fails to make me feel good. Don’t underestimate the power of retail therapy.

If you live with people who are now inconveniently always indoors, then this is what your solo quarantine sex life so desperately needs.

Stay safe out there, guys.

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