Exploring Orgasm Control and Chastity Devices

Think ‘chastity’ and you’ll probably conjure up images of sexually repressed Victorian-era characters, wearing cumbersome non-genital friendly metal belts.

Thank goodness times have changed!

Today, chastity and orgasm control are two fetishes that have gained great popularity. Most of this is due to the innovation of new chastity devices and belts that are practical and easy to use, affordable, and a lot less intimidating.

What are Chastity and Orgasm Control?

Chastity and orgasm control are related but are not the same. Orgasm control is allowing someone else to dictate when you come. Chastity is an absence of orgasms. The two go hand in hand, especially because most of the time orgasm control means someone denying your orgasms with the help of a chastity device. However, it’s not impossible to imagine the pendulum swinging the other way, so orgasm control entails someone making you climax frequently.

As kinks go, when it comes to a person’s sex life, these devices can sometimes be used in BDSM play or just on their own if other forms of bondage are not your thing.

Why is Chastity Pleasurable?

This depends on the person, but the intense arousal that comes with abstaining from orgasm can be very pleasurable. Some enjoy the thrill of deciding when their partner orgasms next, treating it as an erotic game that can be intense or playful, lasting a few minutes or for weeks. Other couples simply enjoy bringing each other to the edge of orgasm but denying each other the pleasure of that final release. What’s more, chastity devices are a great way to prevent masturbation.

Often when a person is in chastity the wearer gives the key to the padlock to their partner. This person is called the key holder. This works well with domination and cuckold play.

Choosing a Chastity Device

Chastity belts are fantastic, but they take time to get used to and can be expensive. The good news is there are both female and male chastity belts. If you have a penis, however, there’s a lot more choice when it comes to chastity belts and devices that fit over the penis shaft and around the testicles. If you don't have a penis, a waist belt with a secured gusset is about the only option.

For male chastity, start with a sex toy chastity device. They're cheaper and may include options for a semi-custom fit.

These devices are also known as cock cages, penis cages, birdcage devices or penis locks. You can get these chastity cock cages with different ring sizes and some include a urinal or urethral catheter. Often these male chastity cage devices are made of plastic or use metal cages. Generally, metal chastity devices are more expensive than their plastic counterparts.

Typically, a stainless steel cock cage will come in different sizes or will come with different ring sizes included. You will need to check the size of any stainless steel male chastity device (or plastic device for that matter) that you purchase.

Comfort is Key...

Being in chastity doesn’t mean being uncomfortable. In fact, to enjoy this fetish safely, the opposite is true.  

• Fit is everything. Belts shouldn’t be too tight around the waist. Sitting down and moving shouldn’t feel awkward. Make sure it’s not overly restrictive or it will act like a cock ring, preventing blood from leaving the penis and causing an unwanted erection. If it’s too tight, it could cause serious discomfort, too loose and the device will fall off.
• Chastity devices that come with multiple rings are great for beginners, as you can change rings until you find the perfect fit.
• Avoid chafing. Apply lube several times a day to wherever skin comes into contact with the chastity belt. Eventually, you won't need it as often, but it's very important at first.
• Start slowly. Maybe wear it for an hour or so at first (perhaps on a date) then build up to a whole day. Then every day. Then, try it overnight and so on.
• Always keep a spare key in a safe place, or use plastic tamper-proof locks when starting out. These are single-use locks that can be easily broken in an emergency.
• Be prepared to take it off if it's too tight, you feel pain or notice any discolouration

Have Fun with Chastity!

Having fun is what it's all about. Most people enjoy chastity because they either enjoy teasing or being teased. Experiment to find out what level of play works for you as a couple. From subtle reminders like displaying the key in public to more explicit taunting like masturbating in front of your locked-up lover.

Want to take it to the next level? Some of the more high-quality chastity devices and sex toys even incorporate an electric shock mechanism for additional electro stimulation.

Curious to Try Chastity for the First Time?

If reading this article has got you a little curious, then your next step to exploring chastity might be to take a look at some devices. Head to our Chastity Devices section and shop the range today!