Top 7 Blow Job Tips

The art of giving a good blow job. Definitely not something they covered in your sex education class. Luckily we’re on hand to fill in the gaps! Whether it’s your first time or your hundredth, read on, we have just the tip(s)...

When it comes to the delights of horizontal refreshment and all the fabulously filthy foreplay that leads up to it, we all have unique and individual preferences. Different strokes for different folks as they say.

But when it comes to oral sex, particularly blow jobs, there are a few tricks that almost always lead to all-encompassing pleasure.

This handy guide offers some ideas on blow job techniques that’ll have them screaming your name and begging for more.

As with any sex act, it’s always good to check in with your sexual partner before you get down to it. They know their body best and will be able to guide you so that you can make them feel fantastic. That said, giving a blow job is not all about the receiver’s pleasure, be sure to talk to your partner about what you’re comfortable with and where your limits lie. A blow job should be sexy and fun for both you and your partner!

Of course, it’s rude to talk with your mouth full;) but communication certainly doesn’t have to be limited to before you get hot and heavy. Maybe get the main questions like what they’re into and not into out of the way beforehand. Then during, ask for feedback, “how does this feel?”, “do you prefer this or this”, “faster or slower?”. Pay attention to their moans and body language, they will give away a lot.

Playing with someone on the shy side? Maybe let them know they can squeeze your hand when it feels really good so you know you’re on the right track!

Showing your lover that not only do you want to please them, but you’re enjoying giving them head and its a turn-on for you too makes the whole experience even more delicious and satisfying. Don’t get us wrong, never pretend you’re into it if you’re not, but for many penis owners, enthusiasm is really hot.

One surefire way to demonstrate your enthusiasm is by throwing in a bit of eye contact or making some noise. Make them weak at the knees by slowly staring up at them whilst you go down on them, this may well tip them over the edge - you can thank us later. This is one of our best blow job tips with the potential to improve your sex life and take intimacy to new heights.

The sexiest of all ingredients in the blowie recipe.

Just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, knowing your way around a penis doesn’t happen overnight (we’re sure that’s how the saying goes, right?), like most skills, it takes practice and experience and every partner you have will be different!

Now is the time to get familiar with your partner’s penis. You’re already pretty up close and personal but now you have the pleasure of exploring their sweet spots with the tip of your tongue! Both the head of the penis and the frenulum contain heaps of nerve endings ready for stimulation. Essentially these two areas are key pleasure centres of the penis.

Once you’re comfortable with the basics, get curious and explore the other erogenous zones. A flick of the tongue to the perineum could change your whole sex life so get experimenting! Oh, and the golden rule - don’t neglect the balls. When in doubt, a gentle cup and squeeze of the testicles should go down well.

Try going down on them in different positions. Just as you might dust off the ol’ Kamasutra and mix things up with your sex positions, giving the best blow job lends itself to experimentation position-wise with your lucky lover!

Oral sex positions allow you to play with the visual aspect of arousal. If you’re used to having them on the bed and laying between their legs, why not mix it up and create a bit of excitement?

Try having them stand in front of a mirror so they get all the angles or push them against the wall and sink to your knees. After more inspo? Have them sit on the edge of the bed or move to one side of them so they can see your whole body as you bob up and down or even straddle a thigh for some delicious grinding action.

We can hear you chuckling, yes you saw this one coming a mile off but sex toys are our passion after all! Adding extra stimulation from a vibrating or pulsating toy often results in toe-curling experiences that get hot and messy, real quick.

Of course, as always lube is friend, not foe but next time you feel a little fellatio session coming on, whip out the scrotum teaser or slip on a finger vibrator and watch waves of pleasure roll over their whole body. Male strokers are also a fantastic option to enhance sensations whilst giving head which leads us to our next point...

Sure, we’re talking about blow jobs here but that doesn’t mean we can’t dabble in hand job territory or even better yet, treat them to both, simultaneously.

Use your hands at the base of their shaft for grip and move them up and down in unison with your mouth which should be moistening things up nicely. Of course, you can go hands-free but we’ve not heard any complaints about this 2 in 1 blowjob technique - just make sure your grip is gentle or tight enough for your partner’s preference.

Last but certainly not least, this one deserves its own deep dive (pun intended). Certainly not for the faint-hearted and definitely trickier for those with a particularly sensitive gag reflex is the deep-throat blowie.

So what is deep-throating?

In essence, the way it works is during a blow job, the person giving head takes as much of their partner's penis as possible into their mouth - potentially the whole thing if you're showing off.  Then, giving a nod to the name of the act itself, the penis is pushed deep into the throat delivering incredible sensations. Often times this causes gagging, which is completely normal and can be a turn-on to hear. Try to embrace making all the noises, after all, there is something large threatening to block your airway. 

That said, despite what porn might lead you to think, not all people with a penis are obsessed with deep-throating. As always, if it’s uncomfortable for you or you’re just not feeling it, don’t be pressured.

For those that are considering it, let’s dispel a key myth. You can be forgiven for thinking having an overly sensitive gag reflex would stand in the way of enjoying this particular flavour of fellatio, and yes, these people might not be the ideal candidates...

But did you know you can actually train your gag reflex and desensitise it with only the help of a toothbrush? Avoiding gagging altogether might be a tricky task but taking things slowly when you get down to it and brushing your tongue daily on the spot that makes you feel like you might gag for about 15 seconds, should gradually desensitise you!

Hopefully, these tips will hit the sweet spot but keep your eyes peeled for more tricks and advice on oral sex on our blog! Happy Steak and Blowjob Day folks x